Wedding Myths & Traditions You Can Ignore

August 07, 2019

wedding traditions you can ignore

There are a lot of wedding myths and superstitions out there - some of which have thankfully stopped being commonly used, and some that are still making their way out the door. But trying to remember and coordinate all the little details that might not matter much to you just adds more hassle and stress to your plate when planning, and more work on the day of. Instead, get rid of some of these outdated wedding myths for a fun and worry-free wedding!

1. You have to have a cake (and eat the top layer a year later).

While few people will deny that they love cake, a wedding can get so busy and exciting that your guests might not even get a chance to eat it! Especially since it involves cutting up the whole cake first, it can be easily avoided by opting for a dessert or sweets table instead! Have cupcakes, cake pops, cookies, brownies, or anything your heart desires! More bite-sized desserts make it more likely that your guests will actually have some, and helps minimize your food waste.

2. Your dad has to walk you down the aisle.

Though certainly still popular (and you can definitely still do this if you want to!), many brides are rewriting the rules on this one. You can have your mother walk you down the aisle, your grandfather or grandmother, your stepfather, your cousin or brother, or both your parents. You can even walk down the aisle alone. It's all about what makes you feel most comfortable.

3. You need a wedding registry.

This one's self-explanatory - many, if not most, couples already live together before getting hitched, and already own many of the things they would traditionally ask for in a registry. That's why the alternative of having a "Honeymoon Fund" has become so popular. Your guests can contribute towards your Honeymoon and help make it more affordable for you (in lieu of yet another casserole dish).

4. The bride's and groom's families need to sit on different sides for the ceremony.

Our only questions is - but why? Two families are becoming one, and there's no reason to separate them. You might as well have everyone start getting to know each other already, not to mention that attending friends who know and love you both might not want to "pick a side". One of our favorite ways to make this clear is by adding a cute, rhyming sign that says "Pick a seat, not a side. We're all family once the knot is tied!".

5. The groom shouldn't see the bride before the ceremony.

This is a personal decision that the couple should make together, of course, but don't feel like you have to be separated all day if you don't want to be! Some brides choose to get ready together, with no boundaries, while others do a "reveal" or "first look", where the bride and groom share a special moment of seeing each other for the first time that day, but before the ceremony.

6. Your wedding gown has to be white.

For the non-traditional bride, white can feel restricting or boring, and it's a wedding myth that has certainly been pushed out the door more recently. Don't be afraid to take a look at some blush, pink, or champagne-colored gowns as well! Many brides also add a pop of color to their dress through sashes, belts, trains, veils, and other dress details.

7. You need something old, new, borrowed and blue (and a sixpence in your shoe, apparently).

This saying comes from an old English poem (learn more about it's meaning here!) and are meant to represent various charms of good luck. But don't stress too much about finding all of these items for your wedding - they are definitely not a prerequisite for a happy marriage!

8. Your bridesmaids are female and the groomsmen are male.

It's not uncommon for the bride or groom to have close friends or family who they simply can't imagine not having by their side on the big day. Luckily, these days, they don't have to! The existence of a "Bridesman", "Man of Honour", "Best Woman", and "Groomswoman" are rising in popularity and can make for some funny wedding pictures as well! Every special person should be able to play the role you'd like them to, regardless of gender.

9. Your bridesmaids need to buy expensive matching dresses.

At BridesMade, we obviously have a very strong stance against this wedding myth in particular. Your bridesmaids should be excited to be in your wedding party, not dreading the expenses and hassles that too often come along with it! It's no secret that bridesmaid dresses often only get worn once, and then just take up space in their closets, so renting the bridesmaid dresses is always a more affordable idea. The infinity dresses are sure to fit all the girls in your bridal party, as they are size-adjustable and extremely comfortable! Because of their versatility, sometimes bridesmaids love them so much that they even decide to buy them - which still ends up being much more affordable than the $300 or $400 bridesmaid dresses many boutiques offer! See our colors and styles here!

10. You have to do a bouquet and garter toss.

Sometimes, activities and games at weddings can be fun. But more often than not, your guests are over the formalities and structured timeline and just want to have some fun! After dinner, toss your itinerary out the window and focus on spending time with the guests instead of doing all of the unnecessary tasks that your guests don't really care about much anyways. It'll let both you and your guests relax!

How do you feel about these wedding myths and traditions - are they necessary? Which ones are you keeping or cutting out? Let us know in the comments below!

Happy Planning!

The BridesMade Team

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